It has been a while since I have blogged about what is going
on with me, so today I decided to and well here I am writing a “what’s going on
kina blog.” School starts in eighteen
days and I am really excited about it. I
will be taking three classes, World Lit to 16th Century, Human Anatomy &
Physiology, and Jazz History. I will
only have classes on Tuesday and Thursday’s during the day and Monday
nights. At first I was only going to
take the Lit and Anatomy, but Denny decided that he was going to join me in
Jazz History. So well anyways that is my
classes list and well I am pretty good with it.
What is exciting about this semester is that it is the second to last
one at the community college and then I am off to the second part of earning a bachelor’s
degree in Social Work at the state college.
It is so great to know that I have followed through so far already, even
with the semester I took off in the spring.
Ok so other news. I
have finished the training for Peer Specialist and Peer Wellness Coach and
finally have a job. I will be working at
one of the mental health agencies in the area.
I got the call on Thursday and am really happy about that. When I interviewed I brought my school
schedule with me in case they asked for it and well they did and they proceeded
to tell me that the encourage education and are really pleased that I am a
Social Work student. They actually said
that it was an added bonus and are very excited to work with me and help me to
maintain my high grade point average.
So starting on Monday I will be an employee over there and in
fifteen days I will be working and going to school. I honestly hope that I can stick with my
recovery plan and not have any drawbacks.
The good thing is that last year I learned how to deal with my symptoms
better and know how to look out for them and not let them get out of control.
In New Jersey Dad is slowly declining but still hanging
on. He is really weak and barely
eats. Honestly I think that he is
fighting because he is worried about my brother. Each time I go there, dad reminds me to take
care of my brother when he passes away.
I will have to say that I am a bit worried about my brother as well
right now. It is summer and him being a
roofer, it is his busy time, but he has not been going into work that
much. I asked him yesterday if he was
feeling more depressed than his usual and he told me that he wasn’t. I made him promise that if he was to let me
know, and he said he would.
Also another indication that there is something going on with
my brother is his migraine headaches. He
has been suffering with them since he was around ten years old. Usually he gets like two a month and the
whole neighborhood knows he has them because he screams on the top of his
lungs. When he does this it can seem
scary to someone who doesn’t know.
Anyways, those headaches have increased to around five to seven times a
month. I have begged him to go to a doctor,
but he refused. So that increase in
headaches really scares me.
I have talked with the Hospice social worker about my concerns
with my brother and described what he was like as a child and she told me she
would do her best to work with my brother, but if he was not willing to work
with her, there was nothing that she could do.
She has been working her way to talking with him now and hopes that he
will want to talk to her when dad passes away.
She figures that right now he will talk to her with dad and after he will
have enough trust in her to continue to work with her.
What concerns me is how he is with death. When my sister died there was discussion
about maybe getting him some serious help, but honestly at that time I was in
my own personal hell, I never really knew what happened. I am pretty sure that all of us were messed
up at that time and no one actually did anything to help my brother and he is
still in a state of just existing.
About three years ago my brother had a cat that he loved. She got sick and died, and he basically
locked himself in his room for months.
It was so bad that dad would put food up by his door, just so my brother
would eat something. What bothers me the
most about that situation is the fact that my father didn’t think to get my
brother any kind of help; instead he just placated the issue, until my brother came
out of it.
I have way too much going on in my life right now that I know
I am not going to be able to do anything like that for him and honestly I have
no problems finding outside help for him.
It just scares me that there is only one human on earth that my brother truly
loves and that is my father and when he is gone my brother will have no one in
his life. Honestly right now I can’t do
anything more than I am doing right now and I really have to keep my focus on
me, because in the end, I am the only one who can take care of me.
So here in Rhode Island, my concerns are with Denny. He is back to drinking and I am slowly
distancing myself from him. It is
something hard for me, because I love him so much, but if he is not going to do
anything to help himself, I can’t be around that so much. I have talked to him and reminded him how
well he was doing while sober and how he she seriously consider quitting
again. So far since he has started
drinking again, he has depleted the savings that I had worked so hard to
establish for him and he has been suspended from his work because of absentness. One more time he is absent, he will lose his
job. I guess there has to be a bottom
that is hit, before he will learn that drinking is not a good thing for him.
Well this has been long enough and well I think I am pretty
caught up for now. Time to find a
picture for today…
Ok this picture was taken when I was about eight or nine with
my brother. The reason I decided on this
picture is because it is a true representation of the distance that is between
us, even today. Though I have tried to
get closer to him, there is always that space between us. It is funny actually because in all the
pictures that my mother had taken of us kids back in the day, my sister was
always in the middle, and this shot looks like she is just missing. I wonder if it is in some way a clue of how
it was going to turn out, my sister is missing. So anyways that is why I decided to use that
picture.
Ok you all, TTFN……………
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